Semi OT - Disappointed in friend
I posted this yesterday in the womens forum but thought i would get better advice in here. I recently had a disaster in my life. Basiy, my apt. got destroyed due to water and is uninhabitable. I didn't have renter's insurance (i know, kicking myself now). My furniture got ruined and didn't really have a place to go for more than a short time. There are plenty more details. But long story short... I have a friend I have known for 20 years (since we were young kids) and I am super disappointed in how shitty a friend she has been. She lives alone in a 2 bed/2 bath apt yet hadn't offered to let me stay. I haven't been handling the stress of being displaced/having most of my stuff ruined etc. very well and she knows this. Yet she never ed to check in on me since about 2 days after this all happened. Which was 2 weeks ago. She also didn't offer to cancel her plans the night i was doing so poorly (her plans were to get a drink with another friend, not what i would consider important). We normally email everyday at work and those dropped off completely. She went on a vacation (a leisurely one, not an active one). Never offered to let me stay at her place while she was gone, nor checked in with me to see how i was doing at any point. Just basiy, completely unsupportive. Went about her daily life seemingly not caring about me even though she knew i essentially had no place to go. I finally emailed her today asking her if everything is okay b/c i hadn't heard from her and she said everything is fine, just been busy with going away and all. Then she asked me if i was still in the state! How could you think a friend might leave the state because she has no where else to go and still not contact her? I just don't get it. I'm upset, pissed etc. I hate confrontation but i want to let her know how upset and disappointed i am. I would NEVER have treated her (or anyone else) this way. Any suggestions on going about this?