There is a HUGE difference here, Bee.
You and your fair-weather friends actually ASKED for what you needed, instead of sitting around feeling entitled and wondering why no one went out of their way to pamper you. I've said it before, "You never get what you don't ask for." OP never actually contacted this friend to ask if she'd like to get together over coffee cause she needed a shoulder to cry on, she never asked to come stay at her friend's place, she never asked for any of the things she is complaining about. I'm sorry for what she is going through, but my friends go without my assistance in times of need as well if they never bother to ask for any. And I'm talking about good friends, who will always help you out, and I am the same way, but none of us can read minds and none of us are clarivoyant enough to determine that so-and-so needs a phone or could use a pity-party. We keep ourselves in our own orbits until we are asked for help, but boy-howdy, once you ask... As I suggested above, maybe her friend was trying to give her space to sort out her issues. We don't know and she never will as long as she never asks about it. Communication is an important part of any and all relationships, friendships just as much as romantic relationships